You need to trust me!
Published on: Feb 06, 2017

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Over the last two weeks, the key theme at two of my coaching conversations has been ‘Pistanthrophobia’. Yes, it’s an actual phobia which means the fear of trust.

Both sessions involved the founders of two very different companies – both of whom are passionate, focused, driven and completely hands-on individuals running their growing firms.

Coaching session 1

My coachee runs an established firm with a workforce of ~2000. The firm has on boarded a new COO 6 months back. The COO is an industry veteran with great pedigree, experience and is completely hands on in his leadership style.

Coachee: “I am not sure if I have hired the right person as the COO. We thought he would take on a lot of my day-to-day work and drive the organization towards greater excellence. But during my daily connects with his direct reports, I have started getting a mixed bag of feedback.”

Me: “Did you do all the necessary background and reference checks while hiring him?”

Coachee: “We did, and all his references talked highly of him and his background / experience matched the requirement perfectly!”

Me: “It’s just been 6 months. Don’t you think you should be giving him a little bit more time?”

Coachee: “I agree. But his direct reports are not giving me the right signals.”

Me: “Why are you meeting his direct reports daily?”

Coachee: “I am running a firm here. I need to know what’s happening and if there are any challenges that the operations team is facing.”

Me: “Don’t you think the COO should be updating you on that?”

Coachee: “He does. But I need to be sure if he is giving me the right information.”

Me: “Do you trust him?”

Coachee: “Shouldn’t he be building the trust with me by proving himself?”

 

Coaching session 2

The coachee runs a startup. They have hired a HR Manager, 3 months back to head and set-up their HR function.

Coachee: “I am facing an issue with my time management. I am overworked and don’t know how to manage it. Can you help?”

Me: “Which activity do you believe is taking up most of your time?”

Coachee: “Recruiting for my leadership team”

Me: “Why? Isn’t that the job of your HR Manager?”

Coachee: “No way. I don’t want her to know who we are evaluating and at what compensation.”

Me: “But why?”

Coachee: “She might leak the information. She might also use the compensation data to her advantage.”

Me: “Don’t you trust her?”

Coachee: “It’s just been 3 months. She needs to spend some more time before I start trusting her with confidential information.”

But is trust so important for us to talk about? Most people think that trust is a nice to have, soft, social virtue, but few understand the true impact it has on business results.

  • Trust fosters stronger relationships and removes politics and silos from the work place
  • Provides people with a sense of safety and creates a cohesive environment for innovation and productivity.
  • Trust helps teams / organizations to be more nimble, more efficient, and more effective - it’s like oxygen for a successful team.

 So if it is so important, then why is it that trusting is so difficult? Basis my experience, I think the following two are the most common reasons:

  • One has had some bad experience(s) in the past and therefore does not want to go through the pain again
  • One is insecure – about the lack of their own skills/abilities and therefore a loss of face/control

 

The ability to build and maintain trust in an organization starts at the top and is fostered through the organization. If you, as a leader, are not trusting your team, especially when they are new to the organization, you are surely setting them up for failure. You need to create space to let them perform and an environment where people in their teams can begin trusting them and collaboratively work towards success.

 

So how can you, as a leader, build trust?

  • Think in terms of long term relationship building and not short term successes
    • Consider individuals as partners in your success.
  • Build a connect
    • Take the first step. Open up. Demonstrate and communicate your trust. As Ken Blanchard says, “When you open up and share about yourself, you demonstrate a vulnerability that engenders trust.”
    • Tell and listen to individual stories. We are all humans first and the job titles later. Spend time with each other – work, play and have fun together.
  • Do not interfere
    • Avoid too frequent skip-levels
    • Delegate and monitor effectively

 

Remember, trust generates commitment; commitment fosters teamwork; and teamwork delivers results. When people trust their team members they not only work harder, but they work harder for the good of the team.

So, wave the magic wand of trust around you, and  turn off you cell phone, laptop and tablets and make that two-week vacation, that you deservedly yearning for, possible. It will help. Trust me :-)



About the author

Mainak Maheshwari

Certified Coach,Change Enabler

India,Noida

I am passionate about supporting individuals, teams and organization be successful

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